And to those who want to throw direct sales parties
I know that direct sales are really big right now. They are an easy way to supplement income or, if you really kick ass at it, become a full time job. I know that several of you are excited to be starting or excelling at a new business adventure. Mary Kay, Pure Romance, Thirty-One, Younique, Premier, Damsel in Defense, Origami Owl, Scentsy, Party Lite, etc. You're booking parties, selling your products, making money, and really excited. That's great! I'm so happy for you! But after a year of being invited and sometimes being pressured and almost bullied, into attending parities and to purchase items, it is time I set some ground rules.
1. I know you are excited to share your business. I know you want to book parties and stuff, but I'm partied out. Last year I went to six, SIX Pure Romance parties and invited to eight various direct sales parties. I went to about five of them. I'm done, guys. Really I am.
2. That being said, if you are hosting a party, I'm not adverse to you asking me to attend, but before you add me to an event online, please ask me first. A simple, “hey I'm having a party with [insert direct sales company here] you don't have to attend, but I would like to add you to the FB event in case you want anything. Is that cool?” I will either say yes, that is cool. I'm okay with that. Or no, that isn't something I'm interested in.
3. To expand further, if you put in me in a FB event, and I leave, please, for the love of my sanity, DO NOT add me back to the event. Seriously. If I have to tell you four times, that I'm not interested in whatever it is, leave it at that. Re-adding me when I ask you not to is just going to irritate the hell out of me.
4. If you are the consultant, please don't try to pressure and/or bully me into buying something. I know how the deal works. I know that the more I buy, the more money you make and the more credit for free stuff the hostess gets. Just because I'm attending the party, doesn't mean I have the money to spend. These parties and products are frivolous expenditures and I don't always have the money to burn. If I'm able to buy something, or want to buy something, I will. Pressuring me or trying to bully me into buying things is not only something a really nasty person would do, but it is also a shitty business tactic.
5. Before you call me, ask yourself, is this textable? Can this be sent in an e-mail or on Facebook? I'm happy to hear about your specials and new products, but I'm on a very erratic sleep schedule most of the time because of my insomnia (tested and diagnosed and everything), my sleep is very precious to me * Gollum, Gollum * and I don't appreciate being woken up at 9am to hear about discounted products.
That being said, I'm happy to support you in your business if I can. There are things I will support and things I won't. Usually if you are selling makeup, I'm not interested. I can't justify $30 on mascara. Same with candles. My cats are assholes and eat them. The only ones that I really like are the Wal-Mart version of Yankee candles. They are cheaper and smell the same. Also, I can't bring myself to pay the insane cost. I don't even buy Yankee candles. I will not, under any circumstances, buy from Thirty-One. Seriously. (A) The bags are entirely too damned expensive and (b) I have had two bad experiences with two different consultants. I don't do jewelry, usually, but may attend a party to look at the shiny pretties. I will support Pure Romance, but with my consultant because I trust her implicitly, Origami Owl, and Damsel in Defense, barring the consultant was a lot better than the last one.
I'm sorry that I'm sounding like such a snobby bitch about this. Actually, you know what? No. I'm not. I'm the type of person that tries to make everyone happy and never says no because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. That usually turns me into a door mat and I can't let that happen any longer. I have to set up boundaries and these are it. If that makes me seems like a bitch, I'm not apologizing. I wish you all the best of luck in your businesses, guys. I'm kinda done.
1. I know you are excited to share your business. I know you want to book parties and stuff, but I'm partied out. Last year I went to six, SIX Pure Romance parties and invited to eight various direct sales parties. I went to about five of them. I'm done, guys. Really I am.
2. That being said, if you are hosting a party, I'm not adverse to you asking me to attend, but before you add me to an event online, please ask me first. A simple, “hey I'm having a party with [insert direct sales company here] you don't have to attend, but I would like to add you to the FB event in case you want anything. Is that cool?” I will either say yes, that is cool. I'm okay with that. Or no, that isn't something I'm interested in.
3. To expand further, if you put in me in a FB event, and I leave, please, for the love of my sanity, DO NOT add me back to the event. Seriously. If I have to tell you four times, that I'm not interested in whatever it is, leave it at that. Re-adding me when I ask you not to is just going to irritate the hell out of me.
4. If you are the consultant, please don't try to pressure and/or bully me into buying something. I know how the deal works. I know that the more I buy, the more money you make and the more credit for free stuff the hostess gets. Just because I'm attending the party, doesn't mean I have the money to spend. These parties and products are frivolous expenditures and I don't always have the money to burn. If I'm able to buy something, or want to buy something, I will. Pressuring me or trying to bully me into buying things is not only something a really nasty person would do, but it is also a shitty business tactic.
5. Before you call me, ask yourself, is this textable? Can this be sent in an e-mail or on Facebook? I'm happy to hear about your specials and new products, but I'm on a very erratic sleep schedule most of the time because of my insomnia (tested and diagnosed and everything), my sleep is very precious to me * Gollum, Gollum * and I don't appreciate being woken up at 9am to hear about discounted products.
That being said, I'm happy to support you in your business if I can. There are things I will support and things I won't. Usually if you are selling makeup, I'm not interested. I can't justify $30 on mascara. Same with candles. My cats are assholes and eat them. The only ones that I really like are the Wal-Mart version of Yankee candles. They are cheaper and smell the same. Also, I can't bring myself to pay the insane cost. I don't even buy Yankee candles. I will not, under any circumstances, buy from Thirty-One. Seriously. (A) The bags are entirely too damned expensive and (b) I have had two bad experiences with two different consultants. I don't do jewelry, usually, but may attend a party to look at the shiny pretties. I will support Pure Romance, but with my consultant because I trust her implicitly, Origami Owl, and Damsel in Defense, barring the consultant was a lot better than the last one.
I'm sorry that I'm sounding like such a snobby bitch about this. Actually, you know what? No. I'm not. I'm the type of person that tries to make everyone happy and never says no because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. That usually turns me into a door mat and I can't let that happen any longer. I have to set up boundaries and these are it. If that makes me seems like a bitch, I'm not apologizing. I wish you all the best of luck in your businesses, guys. I'm kinda done.
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